ADVICE FOR NEW COLLEGE STUDENTS
UNKNOWN COMMON DENOMINATORS
During our college years, we often face challenges that feel unique to us, but in reality, they are quite common among our peers. The truth is, you're not alone.
Here are a few things to remind you of this fact:
Intimidation
It can be tough when all your friends start moving on with their lives, leaving you to navigate your own path. While it's exciting to progress, it can also be intimidating. You might feel paranoid or anxious, but just like the fears you had in sixth grade, this phase will pass. You'll make new friends, and these relationships will likely be closer than any you've had before. Though you may stay in touch with a few high school friends, it's the new friendships that will likely be more significant. Ask married people about their wedding parties, and you'll often find that few high school friends were included.
Loneliness
In the first year after high school, you'll likely lose contact with many old friends and acquaintances. Additionally, you may feel disconnected from your parents as you seek greater independence. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, especially when you're trying to figure out who you are and what direction you're headed.
During these times, remember the following:
1. You're Not Alone: Many people experience these feelings after high school. Feelings of depression and isolation are normal. Hang in there; this will pass.
2. God's Plan: This is a natural process that helps you realize who you are and how you are unique.
3. God's Presence: No matter who leaves, God is always with you (Matthew 28:20).
4. Talk to Someone: Keeping your thoughts to yourself can drive you crazy. Find someone to talk to. If you're unsure where to start, visit a local church and ask to speak to a pastor.
Re-evaluation
At some point, we all re-evaluate the beliefs and assumptions from our early years. This often happens in the first few years after high school. Questioning your beliefs is normal and healthy.
Here are eight thoughts about this process:
1. Don't Feel Guilty for Doubts: This process is healthy, even if it feels overwhelming. Many people experience doubts about their faith but may not admit it. You are not alone.
2. Changing Perspectives: Things that once seemed black and white may now appear grey because you can think more deeply than before.
3. Complexity Means Growth: As you grow up, you realize that life isn't as simple as it once seemed.
4. Embrace Confusion: If confusion is creeping in, it's because you don't know as much as you thought. Learn more instead of giving up.
5. Seek Truth: Truth has nothing to hide. Ask questions and share your doubts with someone you trust, preferably someone well-versed in Scripture.
6. Faith and Complexity: Just because things seem more complex doesn't mean your faith is wrong or dying. It means you're maturing and thinking through new things. Challenges can strengthen your faith.
7. Personal Faith: Re-evaluating your beliefs helps you develop a faith of your own, moving beyond your parents' beliefs. This process is like weaning off your parents' milk.
8. Critical Thinking: Just because someone challenges your faith doesn't mean they are right. There may be logical and biblical responses to their points. Compare what people say with God's Word (Acts 17:11).
Scripture References
Matthew 28:20
Acts 17:11
Here are a few things to remind you of this fact:
Intimidation
It can be tough when all your friends start moving on with their lives, leaving you to navigate your own path. While it's exciting to progress, it can also be intimidating. You might feel paranoid or anxious, but just like the fears you had in sixth grade, this phase will pass. You'll make new friends, and these relationships will likely be closer than any you've had before. Though you may stay in touch with a few high school friends, it's the new friendships that will likely be more significant. Ask married people about their wedding parties, and you'll often find that few high school friends were included.
Loneliness
In the first year after high school, you'll likely lose contact with many old friends and acquaintances. Additionally, you may feel disconnected from your parents as you seek greater independence. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, especially when you're trying to figure out who you are and what direction you're headed.
During these times, remember the following:
1. You're Not Alone: Many people experience these feelings after high school. Feelings of depression and isolation are normal. Hang in there; this will pass.
2. God's Plan: This is a natural process that helps you realize who you are and how you are unique.
3. God's Presence: No matter who leaves, God is always with you (Matthew 28:20).
4. Talk to Someone: Keeping your thoughts to yourself can drive you crazy. Find someone to talk to. If you're unsure where to start, visit a local church and ask to speak to a pastor.
Re-evaluation
At some point, we all re-evaluate the beliefs and assumptions from our early years. This often happens in the first few years after high school. Questioning your beliefs is normal and healthy.
Here are eight thoughts about this process:
1. Don't Feel Guilty for Doubts: This process is healthy, even if it feels overwhelming. Many people experience doubts about their faith but may not admit it. You are not alone.
2. Changing Perspectives: Things that once seemed black and white may now appear grey because you can think more deeply than before.
3. Complexity Means Growth: As you grow up, you realize that life isn't as simple as it once seemed.
4. Embrace Confusion: If confusion is creeping in, it's because you don't know as much as you thought. Learn more instead of giving up.
5. Seek Truth: Truth has nothing to hide. Ask questions and share your doubts with someone you trust, preferably someone well-versed in Scripture.
6. Faith and Complexity: Just because things seem more complex doesn't mean your faith is wrong or dying. It means you're maturing and thinking through new things. Challenges can strengthen your faith.
7. Personal Faith: Re-evaluating your beliefs helps you develop a faith of your own, moving beyond your parents' beliefs. This process is like weaning off your parents' milk.
8. Critical Thinking: Just because someone challenges your faith doesn't mean they are right. There may be logical and biblical responses to their points. Compare what people say with God's Word (Acts 17:11).
Scripture References
Matthew 28:20
Acts 17:11
MONEY MATTERS
Money has always been a major source of problems in our world (1 Timothy 6:10). Many people don’t realize how much they value the freedom money provides, allowing them to enjoy various activities. However, these freedoms can quickly turn into burdens without even realizing it. Money can ruin our lives and hold us back if we’re not careful. Most adults facing financial trouble can trace their problems back to poor decisions made during their college years.
Here are nine pieces of advice regarding money:
1. Think Long-Term - Focusing on immediate pleasures instead of thinking long-term will cause problems. It's tempting to focus on immediate desires, but be cautious.
2. Watch Your Food Spending - The most significant portion of your spending will likely be on food. If you live on campus, use the Dining card you’ve already paid for.
3. Avoid Unnecessary Debt - Spending money you don’t have, like using credit cards without being able to pay the bill, will lead to regret. It may be fun to buy what you want now, but it will cost you later.
4. Monitor Coffee - Expenses Cups of coffee add up quickly! Plus, building a strong tolerance to caffeine now will mean it’s less effective when you need it during finals week. Making it yourself is considerably cheaper.
5. Stick to a Budget - Living on a budget, though it may sound lame, will save you many headaches. God has given you a certain amount of money, so spend it wisely and don't overspend. Overspending can signal a lack of contentment with what He has provided.
6. Buy Books Online - It’s much cheaper than the bookstore. Also, attend a few classes before purchasing the book—you may not need it.
7. Prioritize Giving - The first check or debit each month should be a tithe to a local church. This practice not only shows faithfulness but also reminds you of your priorities. The second debit can be for a meal, like a combo at Taco Bell.
8. Balance Your Account - Simply calling the 800 number on the back of your ATM card to verify your balance doesn’t mean your checkbook is balanced.
9. Consider Future Responsibilities - Buying luxuries like a motorcycle, boat, or nicer car might seem appealing now, but these will eventually become responsibilities. What seems like freedom can turn into bondage if you’re not careful.
Simple Fact: Most adults in financial trouble link their problems back to poor decisions made during their college years.
Here are nine pieces of advice regarding money:
1. Think Long-Term - Focusing on immediate pleasures instead of thinking long-term will cause problems. It's tempting to focus on immediate desires, but be cautious.
2. Watch Your Food Spending - The most significant portion of your spending will likely be on food. If you live on campus, use the Dining card you’ve already paid for.
3. Avoid Unnecessary Debt - Spending money you don’t have, like using credit cards without being able to pay the bill, will lead to regret. It may be fun to buy what you want now, but it will cost you later.
4. Monitor Coffee - Expenses Cups of coffee add up quickly! Plus, building a strong tolerance to caffeine now will mean it’s less effective when you need it during finals week. Making it yourself is considerably cheaper.
5. Stick to a Budget - Living on a budget, though it may sound lame, will save you many headaches. God has given you a certain amount of money, so spend it wisely and don't overspend. Overspending can signal a lack of contentment with what He has provided.
6. Buy Books Online - It’s much cheaper than the bookstore. Also, attend a few classes before purchasing the book—you may not need it.
7. Prioritize Giving - The first check or debit each month should be a tithe to a local church. This practice not only shows faithfulness but also reminds you of your priorities. The second debit can be for a meal, like a combo at Taco Bell.
8. Balance Your Account - Simply calling the 800 number on the back of your ATM card to verify your balance doesn’t mean your checkbook is balanced.
9. Consider Future Responsibilities - Buying luxuries like a motorcycle, boat, or nicer car might seem appealing now, but these will eventually become responsibilities. What seems like freedom can turn into bondage if you’re not careful.
Simple Fact: Most adults in financial trouble link their problems back to poor decisions made during their college years.
LIFE DIRECTION
Everyone faces pressures, varying in intensity and depending on our life stages. For example, younger people might feel pressured to follow fashion trends, while older individuals might face societal expectations about their appearance. Each stage of life comes with unique challenges, and one significant pressure you might be experiencing is finding a career path. The pressure to make this decision can be overwhelming, driven by parents and societal expectations. However, it's not an easy task.
You might be wondering, "How am I supposed to choose a direction when I don't even know what I want?" If you're feeling this way, here are six important points to consider:
1. Take Your Time in Discovering What You Want to Do
There's no rush, regardless of how many people ask. The worst thing you can do is hastily choose a career path you despise just to alleviate immediate pressure. Life is full of people who feel stuck. Avoid settling for something less than what you desire.
2. Understand Yourself First
Before deciding on a career, it's crucial to know who you are and what you believe. Take your time to answer these questions. Think beyond your current stage of life, whether high school or college. We all know someone who clings to their high school identity well into adulthood. It's essential to move beyond that, but do so thoughtfully to avoid a future "mid-life crisis."
3. Consider Temporary Jobs
Taking a temporary job while you figure out your career isn't a bad thing. We all have responsibilities, and gaining diverse skills can enhance your resume. Continue exploring your interests and talents during this time. This way, you can find a vocation that fits you rather than forcing yourself into an ill-suited role. Dream big.
4. Work with the Right People
Job satisfaction often hinges on the people you work with. Even if your tasks aren't ideal, having great colleagues can make your job enjoyable. Conversely, working with difficult people can be challenging. In such cases, you'll need resilience, as few of us can endure such environments without becoming miserable.
5. Trust in God's Plan
Find peace in knowing that God already knows your path (Acts 17:24-27). You can remind your parents of this too!
6. Focus on the Present
Do not worry about tomorrow; it will take care of itself (Matthew 6:34). Your key responsibility is to be faithful today. Handle your current responsibilities well, and trust that God will reveal your life's direction in due time. It's common to worry about the future, especially during college years, but strive to excel in faithfulness today. Be trustworthy in small tasks before God entrusts you with larger responsibilities (Luke 16:10).
Scripture References
Acts 17:24-27
Matthew 6:34
Luke 16:10
You might be wondering, "How am I supposed to choose a direction when I don't even know what I want?" If you're feeling this way, here are six important points to consider:
1. Take Your Time in Discovering What You Want to Do
There's no rush, regardless of how many people ask. The worst thing you can do is hastily choose a career path you despise just to alleviate immediate pressure. Life is full of people who feel stuck. Avoid settling for something less than what you desire.
2. Understand Yourself First
Before deciding on a career, it's crucial to know who you are and what you believe. Take your time to answer these questions. Think beyond your current stage of life, whether high school or college. We all know someone who clings to their high school identity well into adulthood. It's essential to move beyond that, but do so thoughtfully to avoid a future "mid-life crisis."
3. Consider Temporary Jobs
Taking a temporary job while you figure out your career isn't a bad thing. We all have responsibilities, and gaining diverse skills can enhance your resume. Continue exploring your interests and talents during this time. This way, you can find a vocation that fits you rather than forcing yourself into an ill-suited role. Dream big.
4. Work with the Right People
Job satisfaction often hinges on the people you work with. Even if your tasks aren't ideal, having great colleagues can make your job enjoyable. Conversely, working with difficult people can be challenging. In such cases, you'll need resilience, as few of us can endure such environments without becoming miserable.
5. Trust in God's Plan
Find peace in knowing that God already knows your path (Acts 17:24-27). You can remind your parents of this too!
6. Focus on the Present
Do not worry about tomorrow; it will take care of itself (Matthew 6:34). Your key responsibility is to be faithful today. Handle your current responsibilities well, and trust that God will reveal your life's direction in due time. It's common to worry about the future, especially during college years, but strive to excel in faithfulness today. Be trustworthy in small tasks before God entrusts you with larger responsibilities (Luke 16:10).
Scripture References
Acts 17:24-27
Matthew 6:34
Luke 16:10
A WORD ON EDUCATION
Getting a college education is highly valued in American culture. While there are many benefits to pursuing higher education, here are nine important points to consider:
1. Education as a Mission Field
Aim to get an education to become a missionary in your field of work, not just to make more money. The better you excel in your job, the more opportunities you have to reach out to your co-workers. Every missionary prepares for the field by learning about it and finding their fit. Keep this perspective in mind for your education.
2. No Rush to Graduate
There's no need to rush through school. Consider that there's more to life than succeeding in American culture. Perhaps God has other plans for you, like spending a year or two overseas before pursuing a degree. You can always get a degree, but mission opportunities might not always be available. Life only gets busier.
3. Some Things Won't Be Used Again
There are methods and concepts you'll learn in school that you might never use again. For example, if you don't know what the Schaffer method is, it proves the point!
4. Avoid Failing Classes
It's never worth it to fail a class. If you lack discipline, you will regret it later. Life demands even more discipline as you get older. Get through it now to save yourself future headaches.
5. Community College is a Smart Choice
Attending a community college doesn't put you behind in life; it allows you to get the same general education at a lower cost.
6. Science and Faith
Science can be an area where people question their faith.
Here are three things to remember:
- Science does not determine truth; it sometimes discovers it. Scripture tells us that God defines truth (Psalm 31:5, 111:7; John 14:6).
- Science is man's observation of creation, and humans are flawed and biased. Use discernment when it comes to "scientific facts."
- Science doesn't necessarily contradict your faith. Truth found in creation is God's truth, and as God's creation, it is your truth as well (1 Corinthians 3:18-23).
7. Philosophy and Faith
Philosophy can also challenge your faith. Here are four things to remember:
- Philosophy is humans trying to make sense of the world, often with bias and personal agendas.
- Secular philosophy doesn't always contradict your faith.
- Just because someone's reasoning seems logical doesn't mean it's correct. Always compare it to Scripture.
- Don't abandon your faith because of a seemingly logical argument against it. It might not be as logical from a biblical perspective (1 Corinthians 3:18-23).
8. Grammar Tip
Using a semi-colon means both sides of the sentence must stand on their own. Trust me; you'll use this one!
9. Choosing a Major
Don't get too caught up in your major; you'll probably change it anyway. If you're a fifth or sixth-year senior still undecided, try writing out a list of majors, pinning them to a wall, and throwing a dart. Choose the one it lands closest to. By now, you likely have too many loans to not finish school, so make sure you have something to show for the debt (hopefully not too much debt!).
Scripture References
Psalm 31:5
Psalm 111:7
John 14:6
1 Corinthians 3:18-23
1. Education as a Mission Field
Aim to get an education to become a missionary in your field of work, not just to make more money. The better you excel in your job, the more opportunities you have to reach out to your co-workers. Every missionary prepares for the field by learning about it and finding their fit. Keep this perspective in mind for your education.
2. No Rush to Graduate
There's no need to rush through school. Consider that there's more to life than succeeding in American culture. Perhaps God has other plans for you, like spending a year or two overseas before pursuing a degree. You can always get a degree, but mission opportunities might not always be available. Life only gets busier.
3. Some Things Won't Be Used Again
There are methods and concepts you'll learn in school that you might never use again. For example, if you don't know what the Schaffer method is, it proves the point!
4. Avoid Failing Classes
It's never worth it to fail a class. If you lack discipline, you will regret it later. Life demands even more discipline as you get older. Get through it now to save yourself future headaches.
5. Community College is a Smart Choice
Attending a community college doesn't put you behind in life; it allows you to get the same general education at a lower cost.
6. Science and Faith
Science can be an area where people question their faith.
Here are three things to remember:
- Science does not determine truth; it sometimes discovers it. Scripture tells us that God defines truth (Psalm 31:5, 111:7; John 14:6).
- Science is man's observation of creation, and humans are flawed and biased. Use discernment when it comes to "scientific facts."
- Science doesn't necessarily contradict your faith. Truth found in creation is God's truth, and as God's creation, it is your truth as well (1 Corinthians 3:18-23).
7. Philosophy and Faith
Philosophy can also challenge your faith. Here are four things to remember:
- Philosophy is humans trying to make sense of the world, often with bias and personal agendas.
- Secular philosophy doesn't always contradict your faith.
- Just because someone's reasoning seems logical doesn't mean it's correct. Always compare it to Scripture.
- Don't abandon your faith because of a seemingly logical argument against it. It might not be as logical from a biblical perspective (1 Corinthians 3:18-23).
8. Grammar Tip
Using a semi-colon means both sides of the sentence must stand on their own. Trust me; you'll use this one!
9. Choosing a Major
Don't get too caught up in your major; you'll probably change it anyway. If you're a fifth or sixth-year senior still undecided, try writing out a list of majors, pinning them to a wall, and throwing a dart. Choose the one it lands closest to. By now, you likely have too many loans to not finish school, so make sure you have something to show for the debt (hopefully not too much debt!).
Scripture References
Psalm 31:5
Psalm 111:7
John 14:6
1 Corinthians 3:18-23